Thank you for being a friend.

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Two years ago, Chris and I relocated to my hometown of St. Louis, Missouri. Though I hadn’t lived in St. Louis for seventeen years, it always had a special place in my heart. I had so many fond childhood memories of times at Grant’s Farm, the zoo, Purina Farms, rolling down the river on a The President and Admiral, the Science Center and so much more. I love the family friendly culture of St. Louis and was elated when Chris asked if I wanted to move back.

However, it wasn’t without mixed feelings. Between St. Louis and our former city of Kansas City, I had also lived in Springfield and Columbia. With each new city brought new friendships, but once again those friends would not be forgotten, but I was leaving them behind. Little did I know how difficult it would be to “start over” in my late 30’s.

I am fortunate to have lifelong friends who remained in St. Louis, but seasons change. In your 30’s, your friends are less about who you are as a person and more about your children. Are your kids the same age? Gender? Do they get along? Perfect, then we can be friends. Playdates are just as much for moms as they are for your children. Not to mention that with each year, schedules grow busier.

Once you’re past the showers, weddings, and baby showers, you’re onto school events where you just see other parents in passing. Getting to know a mom at a 45 minute school party while you’re trying to stuff turkeys with goldfish isn’t exactly easy.

I’d be lying if I said that the past couple of years hasn’t come with challenges and making friends in a tight knit community has definitely been one of them. It gets a little lonely typing away during the day while others enjoy play and lunch dates.

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I’m thankful for my family, my job and friends near and far, including you. I’m humbled that you visit regularly following our journey. Knowing that you’ll visit inspires me to share and sometimes even motivates me to get a project or two completed {which is one of my greatest weaknesses, though my strength seems to be starting them}. So thank you, for being a friend.

I’m hoping 2017 is a little brighter. I’m looking forward to putting the finishing touches on a few projects, improving my photography, making over the guest bedroom and lots of boating this summer. And hopefully, I’ll make a few new great friends along the way. Anyways, I just wanted to say thanks. You mean more to me than you know. Every comment, email, thumbs up, I love it all. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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8 Comments

  • Julie- I totally get what you are saying. you are lovely and so is your blog. Happy New Year to you!

  • Anna says:

    Julie
    It’s incredible that living so far away we experience the same challenges in life But knowing there are many of us all around the world makes it bearable 😉
    Your posts get read even here in Poland so no more loneliness

  • Indiana says:

    Lovely! I enjoy reading your blog daily. It it so refreshing and love the simplicity. Thank you!

  • Matty says:

    I have always found your slow, considered, and cherished approach to completing your house to be inspiring. You are never shy about admitting that your house (and life!) is a work in progress, and it is refreshing to life through your example. I too suffer from project completion fatigue- it’s always onto the next before the final contractor is scheduled! In the new year, I would love to see more posts on how you find the motivation to complete projects or how you prevent scope creep from one project to the next. My golden rule is to never spend temporary money, I would rather do without and wait for what I want and will cherish for years to come, but that gets complicated with big money and renovation projects with inevitable scope creep, and dust all around 🙂 keep up the good work!

  • Sharon says:

    Moving is always a challenge. We just moved to Cape Girardeau (hi from two hours south!) and I’m in my mid-forties. We lived here before so we are rekindling friendships but I miss my day to day friends I had in Austin. Our kids were super sad about moving (17, 14, and 11) but we explained to them that God has wonderful gifts for us in this move. We remind ourselves of all the blessings we had in our previous home and that new blessings await us here. In this pile of moving boxes I’m staring at daily, I focus on that and look forward to seeing how God uses us in this move! Blessings in the New Year! It’s going to be a great one! Can’t wait to see what you do in your already lovely home!

  • Emily says:

    Always enjoy reading your thoughts and seeing your posts! Having been where you are (many years ago) this, too, shall pass and your friends will once again be the people you remember before children consumed your lives 🙂 On a side note, I made your Merry Mai Tai Christmas cocktails and they were delicious!!!

  • Michelle B. says:

    To the seasons of life! It is trickier making friends as we carry on through life. I admit to not putting forth the same effort in my 40’s with my youngest going through elementary school as I did when my oldest did and I was in my 30’s. We are considering a cross country move and one of the things that concerns me is a sense of isolation. I am thankful for still having a good group of friends from my teens. We only see each other a few times a year, but they are true blue. Again, cheers to the seasons of life! Old friends and new. I enjoy your blog and wish you the best.

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